The Warmth of Shani - by Chaviva

I am enlightened by all the stories I hear about Shani. Shani made me feel like I was part of the Feder family. Through her kindness, thoughtfulness and generosity when she would have me over, I knew I was always invited to family meals. She had me over for Thanksgiving meals, Yom Tov meals and many get-togethers. I remember one Thanksgiving I was late to the Feder family meal. After everyone ate soup Shani was expecting me and kept the soup on the burner. When I arrived she asked me if I would like some and I ate her scrumptious vegetable soup. When I would leave she would always say “You're invited any time,” or “Come any time.” and I know she meant it. 

Shani is one of the warmest people I have ever known and will ever know. Through the detailed questions she would ask about my life, I saw she truly cared about me and what I was doing. She would always have great perspective on things. Shani would ask what I was up to, really thought about my answers and responded with chachma. I remember before the summer explaining to her that I would be teaching immigrants and she showed much interest in it. She then gave me advice similar to that of my professors. But she didn't only show interest in me. Hearing this same thought from many people who knew her, it is apparent that Shani cared about every person, how they were and what they were up to.

Shani’s family is a reflection of what kind of person she was. She loved them, was close to them and really cared about them, and they for her. They are devoted to learning Torah and are Baalei Chasadim, as she was. Her grandchildren loved “Savti” and really appreciated her warmth and care for them. Just a few weeks ago Hillel (her 2 year old grandson) and I were looking through family pictures and I was asking him who everyone is. I pointed to Shani and he said “Savti” and looked up at me with a smile. It was apparent that even baby Hillel loves her so much. I admire Shani tremendously. We should all use her example to better ourselves and improve the way we relate to others.